For a long time, I was horrible at keeping New Year Resolutions. I would promise myself to “eat healthy” or “hit the gym” only to fall back into my own habits; often before January would even end!
Then, as 2017 loomed, I decided to stop trying to make promises I knew I wouldn’t keep. I decided to take a moral leap.
“I’m going to stop judging people,” I said to myself on December 31st, 2016.
“I’m going to stop judging people until I know them well enough.”
And so, I did just that.
Low and behold, I became a better person.
But, that was not my only transformation. For, soon, I realized not only had I stopped judging people upon meeting them, but I had stopped caring what others thought of me.
I became my own person. I became free of judgements.
Why did my decision on that fateful eve, change the way I see?
I perceive the world differently.
The following year, I made another resolution, this time to remember people’s names. I was horrible at it, so much so that often I felt uncomfortable asking.
I also looked up to people who seemed to know everybody’s name.
It took about two months for me to become good at it. Now, a few years later, I never have to ask a second, much less third, time for names as they stick in my mind upon hearing them.
I suppose I am telling my story of change as it defines who I am today.
After some serious investigation, I cannot find the answers to why I was able to change.
Thus, I would like to ask you: What changes took place in my brain? Why did I change? What went on in my brain that December day?